Question
My boyfriend had a very bad motercycle accident in 2002,i was very supportive when it happened but i recently turned 21 and i want to experience my own life with out leaving him. the problem is he wants me around 27/7 and although he has a chance to walk again i dont know if it will happen because they stopped his therapy and he wants me to work out with him my feelings are changing because he expects me to do these things.our relationship has drastically canged in every way possible of course! but im still holding on. i was once happy now its only sometimes.i dont know if i feel sorry for him or if i really wanna be with him, his attitude can be nasty sometimes as so mines, i find myself not wanting to be around him as much, and that only causes more conflict?i need to know how can i make this work because talking don't help.i do love him and i wanna see him back on his feet but i need this relationship to change.

Answer
Hi Shanna,

Thanks so much for your question.

It is very difficult for me to answer this question. I can't tell someone how to live their life. One thing you need to know is that a relationship takes time and effort to make it. The initial part of any relationship begins exciting but will level off the more you are around someone that you care about. True love goes beyond the initial excitement and changes throughout time. In almost any relationship, there will be times when you feel like giving up and leaving the situation. This is where emotions should not rule because so many make rash decisions that they later regret.

That said, also, try not to let guilt control your decisions. You are in an unusual situation and only you can decide what is right for you.

I'm sincerely sorry I couldn't be of more help. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me anytime.

Thanks again,
John McKinzie