Questionhi, my name is james ill be 24 on christmas, for the past 5years, i have developed chronic kidney stones or so i was told, but every time i get a catscan, nothin shows up, but i still pass the stones that night or the next day and when i take them to the hospital they say its good u passed it, but the pain i had to go through was un-bearable, for them to say its good!! yea its good but i wanted to do somethin to myself i never thought of in my life brfore it came out!!, i dont wish that upon my worst enemy to have wat happened to me. this has happened over thirty times or more in two years, i have a lot of different prostate problems since i was 13-14!!!everytime i got an erection it got to hard, sometime wouldnt move an wen i tried it killed me,it hurts to have sex because of it gettin to hard when it goes down it stabbs me on the inside of watever is around that area, sometimes i pee as soon as i try, and most the time it take three to ten min to urinate, doc who seen me tonight says reason i cant pee is its from the pain killers, i have NEVER had a prob peein with pain killers-only when my kidney or kidneys started actin up,nothin happened!! ive had to take a lot of painkillers an never had a prob llike i did tonight! ok i cant get out of bed becasue as soon as i wake, im screamin, i cant hold a job cause wen its hits im on the ground ballin!! tonight 11/0608, i went in cause i havent peed in 28 hours and they did a test to see if I had chlamydia or gonorrhea,never never had to take this test!! i did have chlamydia three 1/2 years a go but i was in the hospital at that time and they gave me a double dose, one through I.V an by mouth,,, same exact tonigh except he stuck a four inch needle lookin thing in my penis, it fellt like he cut it of!! when i got cleaned the last time me and my partner were cleaned for two months, NO SEX, NO SEXUAL touchy--feely anything but kissin!! thats it!! my reg phasycian to me to see a nephrologist, the doc tonigh said i need to see a urologist, ill allready seen two an the stones i have supoosebly are small enought to pass,so they couldnt do or wont do anytihing, but the pain i go through i shouldnt be, im depreseed, my anziety, is way over than it should...im jus TIRED of going through this,,an its the same thing FOR FIVE YEARS!!NO-ONE should go thorough wat I HAVE!! Do u have a answer please tell me u do!!! im miserable!! i live in new richmond ohio, my doctor is michael holiday at new richmon family practice, NEW RICHMOND OHO!!!! i dunno if u can help!! but thank u SO MUCH FOR READIN YM QUESTION, TAKE CARE AN I WILL AS MUCH AS I CAN!!
AnswerHi, James,
Sorry to hear of your situation.
When a person has difficulty urinating, it's usually because the muscles of the floor of the pelvis and urethra are so contracted that they can't let go. Those muscles are in spasm.
Erections result from blood flow; your description indicates that you have trouble letting the blood get out of your penis. Same situation: contracted muscles, in this case, interfering with blood flow.
You haven't said where the pain is, but I suspect that will yield another clue, probably consistent with what I've said, above. (The kidneys are at the mid-back, not at the waistline.)
My simple and direct answer: start working to gain control of the muscles of the floor of the pelvis and urethra. Those muscles control urination, so if you practice what are called, "Kegel exercises", which involve deliberately contracting those muscles, as if to stop the flow of urine, holding them contracted until the contraction gets steady, and then slowly letting go of that contraction, you may be able to (gradually and progressively) release the spasm and free yourself from the condition. This approach will probably take many repetitions over a few days, for five to ten minutes, each.
In one of my self-help programs, I teach what I call, "The Cadenced Breathing," which may also be considered, "super-Kegels." It's in the program, The Five-Pointed Star, which you may read about at somatics.com/page7.htm.
best,
Lawrence Gold
