The most effective way to get your ex back requires you going through a bit of pain. But if followed, the results bring about true success to win your ex back.

You抮e thinking 揾aven抰 I endured enough pain?at this point. I抦 sick of the restless nights, aching in the pit of my stomach routine. Isn抰 there some magic bullet that will take care of it all for me?

Sorry. But you 揼otta get tough, or die.?Something an old football coach use to say to me.

What I mean by all this is that you can win your gal or wife back卋ut you must be ready, willing and able to deal with the most pressing question of the day.

揥hat Went Wrong Between The Two of You??br />
Look at everything with logic. Answer the question, what did you do cause the breakup. Were you inattentive, arrogant, or just plain indifferent? Don抰 work on 損utting the blame?on her. You will undoubtedly sabotage any chance you might have of winning your ex back.

For the most part, you will find the answer to this important question was more than just a 搊ne-time event.?More than likely, it was something that was rooted in your relationship. Were you meeting her emotional needs? Was her desire to be heard and not 揻ixed?or 搄udged?met? These are common areas where most men are lacking. We are not great listeners. Our testosterone fuels us 搕o get things done now?instead of listening with unconditional love.

揅an You Change??br />
Another big question. But it may help you win her back. So if that抯 really what your end goal is, commit to making that change.

Start by apologizing or asking for forgiveness. And be prepared: the process never goes fast enough for us. Women take a very slow path and with good cause. After all, do you really want to listen to someone who is somewhat scattered or confused. Patience is an absolute virtue here.

You might want to get back right away. But don抰 expect it from her. Women have to deal with emotional issues in their own deliberate way. Pushing things too quickly will only make her angry. The key here is to tell her you will change and then tell her specifically what it is you will do.

揅an We Talk??br />
More to the point, you need to talk about the things that both of you can do to improve your relationship now and the next day and next month. Remember that old saying: if you always do what you抳e always done, you抣l always get what you抳e always got.

If you got into fights over money or sex or the kids, you really need to talk about some simple things you promise to do should you see a storm brewing on the horizon. Maybe you devise a plan to say to each other 搒hall we take a walk??Or, resolve that your heads will not hit the pillows at night if either of you is angry.

Finally to demonstrate that the relationship is at the top of your priority list, talk regularly about how you and she can continue to improve the relationship. Assess your partnering contributions. And you抣l soon find that pain long gone and forgotten.

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