Getting your ex back is not as "impossible" as you think it is. Breakups are the most painful experiences in the life of anyone. One thing you must learn is to avoid doing really stupid things while deep in that pain of being away from the one you love. Things that could ruin your chances of getting your ex back together with you. Don抰 make these stupid mistakes. Start with these four steps to getting your ex back without ruining your chances and increase your chances of repairing your love.

Breakup is painful for a good number of people for the reason that they have put in so much effort, time and energy in making the relationship works. After the initial disbelief and shock, you may begin to think of all the places you have spent with her. In a short time, you may be wondering, "How to get your girlfriend back?"

All these thinking are going to bring about more heartbreaks and confusion. You may even be tempted to get in touch with her and beg her to return to you. You need to relax and think about whether this is what you should do. Make two lists- no list and yes list. In the no list, you need to list down all the reasons why the relationship failed. It could be different life directions, habits or personality clashes. Whatever they may be, you need to be sincere with yourself. This is the unpleasant part. In the yes list, you should list down her special qualities and all the happy memories. In addition, list down all the reasons why the two of you are a good fit. This is the pleasant part as you bring to mind the good times together.

Next step is to rationally evaluate both the no list and yes list. You can use the items in the yes list to get your girlfriend back if the breakup was as a result of minor differences. But, be aware of all the items in the no list as she is as well conscious of them. The reasons why relationships fail do not happen suddenly. It抯 the buildup of several small things that blow up when that one person in a relationship says that he or she can抰 take that any longer.

If you still decide to get your girlfriend back after the careful evaluation, you have to ask her for a meeting. Meet her personally and let her know all the reasons why the relationship will works this time. Remain friendly and don抰 act desperate. Tell her to at least hear you out before passing any judgment.